2013. Im ready for a fresh start!

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HAPPY NEW YEAR! 2013! 

 I dont know about you, but Im ready to start a new year! This past year came with many lessons--some good, some difficult. 

  • This year taught me about the unspoken politics and gossip that can tear through campuses.
  • I connected with many amazing families and gained a new understanding of their triumphs and trials
  • I was quickly reminded what i say doesnt always matter....even if I consult on a case, leave detailed notes on what is or is not appropriate to request for testing, and even emphasize best practices through training. Unless I'm at the meeting--it's not up to me. I've learned to let go of the things that aren't done by the book (or are legally defensible) when they are ultimately not my responsibility.
On a personal note, I was able to FINALLY understand and acknowledge that when I'm upset in a meeting (related or unrelated to what's actually being discussed)...it's obvious. What universe have I been living in before that I thought I could hide my feelings so well? Hah.
Mental note: be present. 
What does your face communicate to the parents who anxiously sit across from you? Am I distracted by my phone? Have I dug through my 102 files to pull out the correct one and have I located a working pen...an pencil...oh and my calendar (in case we need to schedule something later)

Speaking of NOT showing emotions...

Have you ever had a parent yell at you at the end of a 3 hour meeting, completely mistaking a comment as an insult...and you start to tear up..? Whew. That was a tough day. this year I have to say I have been able to let things roll off my back-not let things get to me as much as before. 

 In this field, there is no room for sissies.



So...2013... Here's to putting my energy into things that are my responsibility, not to get sucked into school yard politics and gossip, handling my emotions gracefully, and being continuing to work on my presence during meetings.

Happy new year!!!

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